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The Calming Power of Ice: How Cold Stimuli Can Support Emotional Regulation and Improve Conversations

From my talk SHRM25–Empathetic Leadership in Layoffs

When we feel nervous—before a presentation, during a conflict, or while managing social anxiety—simple physical strategies can have a powerful effect. One scientifically supported method involves applying ice or cold water to specific areas of the body to calm the nervous system. This can enhance emotional regulation and improve conversations.


How Ice Calms the Nervous System

Vagus Nerve Stimulation

Cold exposure can stimulate the vagus nerve, which plays a major role in calming stress responses. A higher vagal tone is linked with better emotional regulation and resilience. This connection is explored in both psychiatric and inflammatory contexts.

More Practical Applications for Using Ice to Calm the Nervous System

  • Facial Dunk Method: Fill a bowl with cold water and ice, then submerge your face for 10–15 seconds. This strongly activates the dive reflex and is especially effective before stressful conversations.

  • Ice Cube Holding: Hold an ice cube tightly in your hand for 30–60 seconds. Focus on the sensation to help ground yourself before or during a conversation.

  • Cold Pack on Pulse Points: Apply a cold pack or chilled object to areas like the neck, wrists, or inner elbows. These spots allow quicker cooling effects and subtle calming during social interactions.

  • Emergency Cool-Down: If overwhelmed mid-conversation, excuse yourself briefly and apply cold to your face or neck in a private space to reset your nervous system.

  • Portable Tools: Carry a small ice pack or cold compress in a lunch cooler or bag for planned stressful events like public speaking or important meetings.


Source: Breit, S., Kupferberg, A., Rogler, G., & Hasler, G. (2018). Vagus nerve as modulator of the brain–gut axis in psychiatric and inflammatory disorders. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 9, 44. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2018.00044/full