Support System Development

Life & Leadership Coaching Course

Your support system development is key to a successful Life Coaching career. In this lecture, we go through step by step details on how to choose your support from peers/colleagues in your community, place of work, worship, civic group, etc.

Support System Development Details

You are first implementing this for yourself, and then teaching others to do the same.

  • Ask a peer/colleague to a coffee or lunch.

  • Disclose something personal that is not too vulnerable.

  • Stay quiet.

    • Listen to their response.

      • If they give advice, cross them off the list as a support. They may make a good friend.
      • If they listen, reflect what you said and ask questions, keep them on the list of possibilities.

      • If they also disclose something personal in their own lives, give them a star. There is emotional intelligence present.
        • If the information they share is too personal, this may be a red flag. Usually individuals with healthy boundaries will practice reciprocity in an equal manner of vulnerability.

  • Ask them to a second lunch or coffee.

  • Share how you felt supported during the last encounter and why.

  • Stay quiet.

  • Listen to their response.

    • How equally are they reciprocating support they received from you?

  • Are they keeping your conversation confidential without you asking? Within any community, whether it’s work, a place of worship, a civic group, a school...things will get back to you.

  • Time is on your side. Allow a few weeks to a month to pass in between gatherings to assess confidentiality.

  • If they practice reciprocity during the second encounter, continue having encounters, with each one disclosing something still safe but a little more personal and vulnerable.

  • After 4-5 gatherings, specifically ask them if they would like to continue meeting on a regular basis with confidentiality at the helm. Let them know your conversations with them are of immense help. A peer/colleague with a high level of emotional intelligence will value this interaction and see the time as an investment not only in you, but also in themselves.

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